WW: Cher

Wednesday Wickedness that I missed that you can't tell I missed because of the magic of the internets....

1. “A girl can wait for the right man to come along but in the meantime that still doesn't mean she can't have a wonderful time with all the wrong ones.” Have you ever had a relationship that you knew was wrong, but had fun anyway?

Of course I have!  I can't speak for you, but I would bet money that you have, too.  These relationships are almost a necessity so that you can see your limits, your boundaries, and feel your growth and learn from mistakes.  If you're a person who believes in bettering yourself, you can appreciate the challenge and survive it. 

2. “Hate crimes are the scariest thing in the world because these people really believe what they're doing is right.” What group of people committing hate crimes in your country scares you the most and why?

I don't believe in hate crimes.  A crime is a crime is a crime and the act of it rooted in fear, anger, hate, insecurity, power hunger, control, domination, stupidity.  There will be some exceptions, of course, but the exceptions prove to be just that -- exceptions. 

3. “Husbands are like fires - they go out when they're left unattended.” How much effort do you feel a good relationship requires?

There is truth in this, but it's not particular to husbands.  Any unattended relationship will fizzle.  Simple as that.

4. “I won't be able to do what I'm doing forever. There aren't that many scripts floating around for fifty-year-old chicks.” Why are there roles for men till they get very old, yet very few roles are written for older women?

Men are late bloomers.  :P

I'm certainly not in the business, but there seem to be more and more roles for men and women of all ages (and races, etc.).  Cher might not be able to make a millionkajillion dollars every film, but the work is out there.  She happens to be in the luxurious position of being able to have the choice of what she does with her talent.

5. “I've always taken risks, and never worried what the world might really think of me.” Does what other people think effect what you do?

Yes.  It's called accountability.

6. “If you really want something you can figure out how to make it happen.” Do you agree with Cher?

Yes.

7. “To me marriage is for five or ten years.” In you experience, can a marriage last forever?

Marriage can last as long as two people are willing to invest the time, effort and love and risk the vulnerability, trust in the partner and work to reconcile the wounds of the past....  And not just the past that existed in the relationship, but the wounds of the Family of Origin.  It's surprising how one's upbringing manifests in marriage. 

8. “Until you're ready to look foolish, you'll never have the possibility of being great.” When was the last that you felt foolish?

Oh look!  Here's the answer that the WW from 9/22/10 was looking for!  It's Cher!  NOW I get the bonus points! 

*happyjackiedance*

9. “Words are like weapons; they wound sometimes.” What types of things have people said have really hurt you?

....you'll never be satisfied....divorce...you're fat...i'm so disappointed in you....you're a whore....such a bitch....you don't care about me....i don't love you....can't....won't....never....always....no....yes....maybe....don't....i don't think you have a close relationship with God....I'm not interested....let's be friends....your father's passed....leave....go away....there's nothing left to say...

10. “It's not necessary, in order to be a complete person, that I have a man. It's not the end-all, be-all of my life.” Do you need to be in relationship to feel whole?

Everyone needs a relationship, but it doesn't have to be in the context of a man-woman-marriage-permanent life together.  But we are designed to be in community, in relationship.  So yes, everyone needs at least one relationship to be whole.